Let me share with you a life experience of mine today that changed my life for quite a while. As my friend used to say that the world is all about randomization, so I don’t know if it does have an impact on my present personality, but it’s up to people to tell.
I didn’t have any sort of relations in the area where I live, before this ever happened. I was talking to my mother about the whole neighborhood as part of mom-son regular chat when the discussion about the family that live right besides us came up. Mother told me that they are good people and if you confront with any of the guys from the family, just pay your respects and then move on to whatever you were gonna do. I said, yes I would surely do that. The next day, I saw Uncle who was also the head of the family standing outside when I was about to leave for my friend’s home. I stood there for sometime because of some reason, and in my mind I was considering the opportunity of developing a relation with him by paying my respects on the way as my mother told me so.
I don’t really know what crossed my mind at that time, but somehow I didn’t do it. I had some kind of burden on my heart though. It was Sunday after which I left for the university and I had to spend the whole week in gujrat but when the week was over and I came back home, my mother told me that the Uncle from the neighborhood is dead and he died the next day when I left for gujrat. At first, I couldn’t believe what I was hearing but when I got hold of my senses I couldn’t let go off the regret that I faced in myself of not saying to him what I thought he deserved.
That day I realized that feelings are just an entrustment which should be returned with the help of sincere expression to the one who made you feel them. If you don’t then you will not be able to let go off the regrets later. I wasn’t even connected to the person, yet I’m here talking to you about him today after almost 2 years, but what if it comes to my own mother, father, brother, sister or any other relation that I can’t bear the loss of, then it would certainly be something that would leave the holes which could never be re-filled.
Message from Freedom Writers: Start saying the unsaid feelings to the ones they belong as it won’t make you any weak rather stronger. Stop for a while to realize that the greatest things in life come for free and make youself a token of it by saying “I love You” to your mom and Dad, right here right now.
Great article dear, but I don't think that expression of your respect or love to someone deserves pre-planning as feelings don't have motives...
ReplyDeleteThanks and True (what you just said). But i'm not telling you to follow any planned approach. I'm just saying that don't lock them inside of yourself. Its of no use over there. We ruin so many lives everyday with our words without even thinking, so why to hesitate while making some....
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